He may be obnoxious, and may regularly insult you, but if he can't undermine you, he isn't your enemy.
Become gracefully old. Our pleasures in life revisit us and take up lodging in our frame. Where once we aggressively pursued our pleasures, in those precise locations, now we clearly contemplate dramatic rips in the fabric of our physical being. Each has its own texture, its own sensory modality. This is dying. That which you were was life spurting outwards; that which you will be, is death, or nothingness, the Silence.
You are an idiot who is always bawling at people and putting them down in public. Caution around fools ensures that I won't be jumping into the bear pit with you, or even remaining in your presence. But, if you hurt someone who is innocent, and bears you no animosity, if you hurt them because you can, and to impress others like you, and only then, I will expose you, you idiot.
First you show me gold, then you show me ashes. I have come to understand: of course there is gold, of course there is ashes.